I am thinking of starting a new, occasional series for this space called 'Raising an Adult'. It is partly spurred on by the fact that by the end of this month I will have done just that - I will have two, officially adult, children. Not sure how or when that happened.
When the children were very young, a wise mother with years of experience, gave me some advice. She said that I should always remember that I was not raising children, I was raising adults. I should think about what I hoped my children would be as grown ups and then think about what I will do to help get them there. I don't mean in terms of a job but how I would hope they would stand in the world, what kind of human I hoped they would be.
Well that got me thinking I can tell you. I started to think about who I admired, and why.
So what do I admire in adults? Kindness for one, enthusiasm, an ability to laugh, a desire to be intelligent or to search out knowledge. I love people who can hold a conversation. I also like people who are positive and resilient, who don't give up. I am in awe of people who are able to give and seem to expect little back. I think I am back at kindness again. I'm sure that there are many more qualities we could all name. How do we help our children to acquire these qualities.? This is something I want to explore here.
This series is not intended to be words of wisdom, God knows I am a far from being a perfect mother - I am pretty certain that that woman doesn't exist. Rather this is a place of reflection for me and a reminder of how I want to parent Finn. I hope you enjoy it!